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Dboy
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 Posted - 06/18/2012 : 00:55:32
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| If you get off watching porn with people of the same sex does that make you gay? I get off both way (same sex and opposite sex). Sometimes I wonder if I am gay because both turn me on. Also, it's hard for me to cum when having sex, I can usually only do it on my own. Is that normal? Could it be because I am on an antipsychotic and an antidepressant? |
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| mack01
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Posted - 06/20/2012 : 08:37:51
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It's a simple matter of priorities. Do you want to be gay or straight?
God gave us free will to make our own decisions.
I personally believe the Almighty designed & intended for us to be heterosexual. But that's my personal opinion. |
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| Dboy
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Posted - 06/20/2012 : 20:21:57
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| Right now I'm in a straight relationship. I don't know if my family would accept me being gay. My mom sometimes asks if I am. I don't believe either path is wrong though. I think God loves and accepts all people no matter their sexuality. |
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| jodartha
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Posted - 06/22/2012 : 12:59:50
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Hello Dboy
Here are my thoughts on your most interesting of dilemmas.
If you watch porn with both sexes...I don't see a problem with it. It doesn't make you gay...but the type of porn you enjoy the most might.
If your mother wonders if you are gay? ...then all it means is that you give off signals that indicate others might generalize that you might be...but that doesn't make you gay.
If you wonder if you might be gay....well...that says more. You see, everyone at some point discovers what their inherent sexuality is...and maybe you are at that point.
You said you have a girlfriend. You also said that you usually climax by yourself rather than by sex. I would like to ask...is it because it is with your girlfriend?????
I have known men that have had sex with women...but didn't enjoy it because they weren't heterosexual. It could also be that you have spoiled yourself on porn and the real thing isn't good enough anymore...it is one of the hazzards of the porn industry unfortunately.
So back to your question...could you be gay?
What do you think? Really it is up to you...and over a period of time...the answer will become clear to you. If it already isn't.
JODARTHA
BTW...antidepressants or perhaps antipsychotics can delay climax or prevent it at times...it does not however affect sexuality or inherent attraction. |
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| codenamenimrod
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Posted - 06/22/2012 : 21:38:45
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I agree with jodartha on porn spoiling things. Everytime you watch a certain porn act, you are making connections in your mind stronger. You end up craving that one main thing, and that becomes your obsession so to speak. It's the neuroplasticity of the mind. I stoped watching porn myself, because it's just one more desire pursued in vain.
There is a path back from Phantasy to Reality. It is Art. |
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| mack01
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Posted - 06/23/2012 : 14:10:04
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| Porn is fantasy, relationships are real. They bring about different effects on our psyche, well-being & attitudes. |
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| mack01
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Posted - 06/23/2012 : 14:26:29
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| I believe God loves all people too. Don't get me wrong D, I'm not a judgemental person. |
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| davidt
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Posted - 06/27/2012 : 17:57:18
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There is a good chance you are bisexual...
In my candid opinion most folk are but will not admit it.
Good for you in doing so, I find that most refreshing, David
Too often we underestimate the power of a
touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment,
or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
-Leo Buscaglia, author (1924-1998) |
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| davidt
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Posted - 06/27/2012 : 17:59:11
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Originally posted by Dboy
Right now I'm in a straight relationship. I don't know if my family would accept me being gay. My mom sometimes asks if I am. I don't believe either path is wrong though. I think God loves and accepts all people no matter their sexuality.
I am convinced you are right on that score!
Too often we underestimate the power of a
touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment,
or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
-Leo Buscaglia, author (1924-1998) |
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| davidt
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Posted - 06/27/2012 : 18:05:40
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Welcome aboard the good ship Hope as I endearing refer to these caring sharing communities of ours... yours too Dboy now that you have joined us here.
And by the way I am Gay and proud to be so, David
PS., If I can help you on any way to come to terms with your sexuality, (what ever that may be), I will try my my best to do so!
Too often we underestimate the power of a
touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment,
or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
-Leo Buscaglia, author (1924-1998) |
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| Dboy
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Posted - 06/28/2012 : 00:00:59
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Yeah I think I'm bisexual.
I wonder what it would be like to be with a same sex partner sometimes.
When I was very young I experimented a lot with the opposite sex. Then again in high school. Now I'm mainly in straight relationships.
I just wish there were more supporters of gay people.. like Jack Layton. I cried so hard when he passed away. I always voted for him.
Thanks everyone.. I agree with you all that yeah it's a choice in the end that I have to make myself. I always thought things like that were so black and white but they're not.
I don't see porn as a bad thing or spoiling sex. I used to draw my own porn when I was younger with all my favorite scenes. I had a whole book filled. They only time I am able to cum during real sex is if I am imagining a 'porn-like' fantasy with me and my partner in it.
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| Dboy
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Posted - 06/28/2012 : 00:02:33
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| Oops that was supposed to read; when i was younger I experimented a lot with the same sex. |
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| lynn2150
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Posted - 06/28/2012 : 02:33:56
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My friend who just passed away, was Gay, I loved him for the fact, I could talk to him about literally ANYTHING.
He was always comical, and thoughtful,
It didn't matter to me if he loved men, women, or gold fish.
He was my friend, and I NEVER had to worry about him being rude with me.
Such a relief.
Sex, should be a personal choice,
Unless of course the choice involves innocent children.
Not cool. |
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| davidt
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| stigmastomper
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Posted - 09/12/2012 : 10:02:26
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hey i dont care if your whatever your a human being with a warm heart and inquisitive mind thats good
welcome to my therapy
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| makaku
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Posted - 12/05/2013 : 02:07:09
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