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 Posted - 01/14/2016 : 12:12:50
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12 things mentally strong people don't do
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Posted - 01/14/2016 : 17:07:41
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Here is #48:
Beautiful And Touching Photographs Show The Elderly Looking Back At Their Own Portraits
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Posted - 01/16/2016 : 09:20:55
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Here is #49:
The most surprising ways to master 13 essential life skills
Listening
It's a surprisingly simple yet underused concept: If you want to listen better, keep your mouth shut.
Not only does thinking about what you're going to say next take your attention away from the speaker, but hijacking the conversation shows that you think you have something more important to say.
Conserving willpower
we all have a finite amount of willpower in a given day. The key to conserving it is to limit the number of decisions you have to make.
Time management
The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no' to almost everything. If you don't prioritize your time over others', you'll find your productivity will suffer and resentment will mount.
Honesty
If you don't have anything nice to say, that doesn't mean you shouldn't say it. If you are "going to tell the truth" to a friend, use candor - be humble, helpful, and do it immediately after the even, in person.
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Learning a new language
Public speaking
Most people think that trying to calm down is the best way to cope with public-speaking anxiety, but research suggests that this doesn't work. A better strategy is to stop trying to relax and instead reframe your jitters as excitement.
Negotiating
Recent research suggests that it's better to emphasize what you're giving the other person as opposed to what they're losing in any negotiation. Saying "I'll give you my car for $9,000" is better than "I want $9,000 for my car."
Stress management
Making friends
It's hard to make new friends as an adult, but joining a choir could help.
Recent research suggests that singing can be a great icebreaker among large groups of strangers and can facilitate individual friendships down the line.
Asking for help
A recent study suggests that asking for advice makes you look more, not less, capable.
Overcoming procrastination
The only way to overcome procrastination is to abandon perfectionism and not fuss over details as you move forward. Pretending the task doesn't matter and that it's OK to mess up could help you get started faster.
Saving money
Spending to save might seem counterintuitive, but some of the most successful money savers make purchases up front that will save them money later, like a programmable thermostat or an online project-management certification.
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Posted - 01/20/2016 : 14:16:45
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Here is #50:
Your life has meaning if you give it meaning; if you define what it is that is important to you.
Write down what is important to you. Every 6 months, write down what are your top 3 values - the 3 things that are most important to you. Use this to create a "statement of purpose".
Write 100 or less words on:
(1) What is important to me right now?
(2) How am I going to use my time to live out my values?
This allows you to cut out activities that you really don't want to be doing. This is similar to doing a budget, and then cutting out the things you really don't need to spend money on.
When you look at what you value, it can be very clear how to make your purpose. Your "statement of purpose" tells you what you are living for right now. This helps you direct your activities and your life.
People that live with a purpose to their life are generally happier and more hopeful for the future.
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Posted - 01/23/2016 : 07:25:59
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Posted - 01/26/2016 : 18:39:00
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Here is #52:
10 habits of chronically unhappy people
Waiting for the future.
Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proved to have no effect on your mood. Instead, focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.
Spending too much time and effort acquiring "things."
People living in extreme poverty experience a significant increase in happiness when their financial circumstances improve, but it drops off quickly above $20,000 in annual income. There’s an ocean of research that shows that material things don’t make you happy. When you make a habit of chasing things, you are likely to become unhappy because, beyond the disappointment you experience once you get them, you discover that you’ve gained them at the expense of the real things that can make you happy, such as friends, family, and hobbies.
Staying home.
When you feel unhappy, it’s tempting to avoid other people. This is a huge mistake as socializing, even when you don’t enjoy it, is great for your mood.
Seeing yourself as a victim.
Unhappy people tend to operate from the default position that life is both hard and out of their control. In other words, "Life is out to get me, and there's nothing I can do about it." The problem with that philosophy is that it fosters a feeling of helplessness, and people who feel helpless aren’t likely to take action to make things better.
Pessimism.
Nothing fuels unhappiness quite like pessimism. The problem with a pessimistic attitude, beyond it being hard on your mood, is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: If you expect bad things, you’re more likely to get bad things. Pessimistic thoughts are hard to shake off until you recognize how illogical they are. Force yourself to look at the facts, and you’ll see that things are not nearly as bad as they seem.
Complaining.
Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking — and therefore thinking — about how bad things are, you reaffirm your negative beliefs. Beyond making you unhappy, complaining drives other people away.
Blowing things out of proportion.
Bad things happen to everybody. The difference is that happy people see them for what they are — a temporary bummer — whereas unhappy people see anything negative as further evidence that life is out to get them.
Sweeping problems under the rug.
Problems tend to get bigger when they’re ignored. The more you don’t do anything about a problem, the more it starts to feel as though you can’t do anything about it, and then you’re right back to feeling like a victim.
Not improving.
Because unhappy people are pessimists and feel a lack of control over their lives, they tend to sit back and wait for life to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, learning, and improving themselves, they just keep plodding along, and then they wonder why things never change.
Trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, it’s time to stop.
Summary:
Changing your habits in the name of greater happiness is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. But it’s also important for another reason — taking control of your happiness makes everyone around you happier too.
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Posted - 01/27/2016 : 15:05:18
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Here is #53:
“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” – Stephen Covey
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Posted - 01/29/2016 : 09:53:10
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Here is #54:
Three Things Are The Secret To Happiness
Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. The 3 keys to happiness are:
1. Close relationships
The men who reported being closer to their family, friends, or community tended to be happier and healthier than their less social counterparts. They also tended to live longer. By comparison, people who said they were lonelier reported feeling less happy. They also had worse physical and mental health
2. The quality, not the quantity of relationships
The people who fared the best were the people who had the best relationships, with family, friends, and community.
3. Stable, supportive marriages
Being socially connected to others isn't just good for our physical health. It also helps stave off mental decline.
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Posted - 01/31/2016 : 13:05:06
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Here is #55:
Self-Compassion
When you fail, treat yourself as you would treat a colleague or friend who has failed.
When your friend fails, rather than berating and judging your friend, you listen with understanding. You encourage your friend to remember that mistakes are normal. You should talk to yourself the same way as this when you fail.
Strategies for becoming more self-compassionate:
1. Replace your negative self-talk. Instead of saying, "How could I have done this? I'm such an idiot!" you could say, "I had a moment of absent-mindedness and that's okay."
2. Write yourself a letter. Again, pretend you're writing to a friend who made the same error — you'll likely sound a lot less angry and a lot more comforting.
3. Come up with a self-compassion phrase. Neff's personal mantra in challenging situations is, "This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment; may I give myself the compassion I need."
4. Make a daily gratitude list. Every day, write down five things you feel grateful for. Even better? Add on five personal accomplishments you're proud of.
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Posted - 02/08/2016 : 13:01:02
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Here is #56
A Harvard professor reveals a strategy that can help you stop worrying:
Here's how to stop worrying and start being mindful:
You are not your thoughts.
Sometimes they're downright ridiculous. Just because you think it, doesn't make it true.
Observe, don't judge.
Acknowledge the thoughts, but let them float by. Don't wrestle with them.
Don't distract, immerse.
Do not check your email for the 400th time. Take in the world around you. Turn to your senses. That's real. Your thoughts and the stories you tell yourself about the world aren't.
Note or label intrusive thoughts.
Yeah, the thoughts fight back. Acknowledge them. Give the intrusive ones a funny name.
Return to the senses.
Really pay attention to the world around you.
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Posted - 02/11/2016 : 07:48:51
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Here is #57:
5 mistakes you will regret later if you don't put a stop to them now
1. Trying too hard to please others
2. Too much pointless worry
3. Focusing too much on acquiring stuff
4. Not taking care of your physical health
5. Not traveling enough
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Posted - 02/23/2016 : 12:34:19
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Here is #58:
This common feeling is worse for your health than smoking or obesity
Loneliness is worse for your health than smoking or obesity.
25% of people say that they have nobody to talk to about a personal problem.
Lack of social connection (i.e., loneliness) is linked to anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, and antisocial behavior.
Whereas those people who have lives characterized by positive social relationships with other people are happier, live longer, and recover faster from disease. In general, their entire health and well-being is superior to lonely people.
These findings have nothing to do with how many friends you have. If you just feel connected positively to one other person, you receive all the health and well-being benefits of having positive social relationships.
How can you generate that sense of social connection?
- Reduce your stress level: Stress can make you feel very isolated and self-focused. Stress also lowers your ability to empathize with other people.
- Be of service to people: Be kinder to your co-workers. See if there is anything you can do for other people. Having that sense of service and connection to other people will give you a better sense of purpose and meaning in your life.
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Posted - 02/23/2016 : 16:59:20
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Here is #59:
Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal
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Posted - 03/07/2016 : 13:46:33
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Here is #60:
Happiness is a skill that can be learned — here's how to master it
1. Resilience
Resilience is the rapidity with which you recover from adversity. Recent research shows that effort, such as engaging in simple mindfulness meditation, can tune up resilience.
2. Positive Outlook
This skill is the ability to see the positive in others, the ability to savor positive experiences.
3. Attention
A wandering mind is an unhappy mind. Research has found that 47% of an adult's waking life is spent not paying attention to what they're doing, and that this frequent distraction took a serious bite out of their well being.
4. Small Acts of Kindness
Small, simple acts of kindness won't just make others happier, they will make you happier, too. Well being is better achieved with small, defined actions rather than grand abstract goals. So rather than fretting that your business isn't saving the world, or worrying about the overall life satisfaction of a friend, simply focus on buying a co-worker a coffee, introducing someone to a new acquaintance, or cracking a couple more jokes. Those around you will be happier for it and so will you.
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Posted - 03/07/2016 : 13:52:36
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Here is #61:
4 Ways to Train Your Brain for Positivity
Not a natural optimist? Use these simple exercises to train your brain to more easily pick out the positive.
Happiness Homework
Scan for the 3 daily positives.
At the end of each day, make a list of three specific good things that happened that day and reflect on what caused them to happen. The good things could be anything -- bumping into an old friend, a positive remark from someone at work, a pretty sunset. Celebrating small wins also has a proven effect of powering motivation and igniting joy. As you record your good things daily, the better you will get and feel.
Give one shout-out to someone (daily).
Take the positive things you're getting better at recognizing and let people know you've noticed. Take a minute to say thanks or recognize someone for their efforts, from friends and family to people at work. A great way to go about this is by sending 1 daily email to someone. It can be your old school teacher, whose advice you are now appreciating every day. A co-worker or someone you've only met. Show courage and say thanks.
Do something nice.
Acts of kindness boost happiness levels. Something as small and simple as making someone smile works. Pausing to do something thoughtful has the power to get you out of that negativity loop. Do something nice that is small and concrete like buying someone a coffee.
Mind your mind.
Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Opening our awareness beyond the narrowness of negativity can help bring back more balance and positivity into the picture.
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