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 Posted - 02/14/2010 : 19:47:59
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Some self-help groups (e.g., Alcoholics Anonymous) stress "making a list of all persons we had harmed", and "making amends to them all" (if such amends don't cause harm).
Other self-help groups do not stress that making amends is a necessary step in recovery.
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Should our weekly small groups stress "making a list of all persons we had harmed", and "making amends to them all"? |
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Posted - 02/14/2010 : 20:08:00
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Many self-help groups (e.g., Alcoholics Anonymous) firmly believe that they should never be organized (with a national leader and bureaucracy).
In this way, these self-help groups want to prevent ever becoming a cult with a dictatorial leader.
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Do you believe that our weekly small group meetings should never be organized (beyond electing their rotating moderators)?
That is, every small group should operate independently without having an overall leader and bureaucracy governing all the groups.
(The role of our MyTherapy administrative staff would be limited to refereeing disputes between group members. Otherwise, our administrative staff would never dictate how a group should operate their meetings.)
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Posted - 02/14/2010 : 20:24:20
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Many self-help groups (e.g., Alcoholics Anonymous) firmly believe that they should never be drawn into public controversy (e.g., the debates on abortion, religion in the schools, politics, etc.)?
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Do you believe that our weekly small group meetings should never be drawn into public controversy (over issues not related to mental illness)? |
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 00:37:17
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The focus of the group should depend on the needs of the members. Maybe groups should be organized such, if there are enough participants in total.
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 00:43:12
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Will there be chips and soda?
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 00:52:01
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Suggestion: add a rule that participants can post 'listen only' or 'log out' if the situation becomes too stressful - and 'pass' if they want to reamain an active participant but want to skip their turn, if turn-taking is the format.
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 09:59:22
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In a weekly small group meeting, should there be a button which a member could press that would indicate that they want to remain silent and not speak during their turn to speak. |
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 12:24:38
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One thing I thought of, Phil - the imperative of confidentiality. The agreement that what happens within the small group stays within that group and does not spill over into the general forum (unless there is consensus, of course). I can foresee huge problems if that happens....
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 20:25:38
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Question: (Reworded, so please answer again)
Confidentiality: Should there be agreement amongst group members that what is said within the group does not leave the group? |
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Posted - 02/15/2010 : 22:47:44
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(Sorry to be picky, Phil, but could you re-word that last question please - a little ambiguous. Perhaps "Should there be agreement amongst group members that what is said within the group does not leave the group?" or something like that...)
Good point Zep,I have reworded the question as you requested. Your wording is better. |
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Posted - 02/26/2010 : 18:54:58
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Online dating services, like E-Harmony, have members complete a questionnaire so that they can be matched to other individuals sharing the same characteristics.
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Should we electronically match individuals sharing the same problems when forming a small group? (Individuals wouldn't be matched by their diagnoses, just by their problems.) |
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Posted - 02/26/2010 : 19:15:33
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When one person tells another person what to do (e.g., "You should leave your boyfriend because he is a jerk"); it usually offends.
Alcoholics Anonymous prohibits direct advice giving. Instead, it believes that members should teach by personal example. That is, a member should just tell what happened in their own life. Thus AA members will tell their story (i.e., "this is what happened to me"), but will not give concrete advice (i.e., "this is what you should do").
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Should our small groups prohibit direct advice giving? Instead, should our groups promote teaching by personal example (e.g., "I can't tell you what you should do, but this is what helped me"). |
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Posted - 02/26/2010 : 21:21:51
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Is this better? My boyfriend was a jerk, and I left him.
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Posted - 02/26/2010 : 21:56:15
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Yes - it's less confronting and directive. After all, there is always a risk with giving advice - if it doesn't turn out, you can be blamed.
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Posted - 03/09/2010 : 22:29:40
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STEPS TO RECOVERY #1: OVERCOMING DENIAL
Some self-help groups (e.g., Alcoholics Anonymous) list the steps to recovery. They teach that the first step to recovery is to admit that you have a problem (i.e., overcome denial).
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In our small group meetings, should we stress that the first step to recovery is to admit that you have a problem (i.e., overcome denial)? |
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